Thursday, October 29, 2009

关于融入的三个故事


关于融入的三个故事  
(2009-10-28)
● 钱黎文


  关于新移民融入本地社会的讨论,让我想起有关的三个故事。

  第一个故事是一位美国老太太在中国的故事。十年前我在武汉读书时,我的英文老师是一位美国老太太,Glenna女士。我第一次见到她时不禁心想:一个洋人在中国人群中会不会孤单?不认识多少人,语言又不通。等我成了她的班上学生后,我很快发现,她的生活丰富多彩,大约每隔一周她就会约一批学生在她的小公寓里开派对。每个学生过生日都会收到她的礼物。后来更进一步认识了,才发现她喜乐洋溢,活力四射。七十多岁的老太太,竟然和我们年轻学生一样骑自行车穿街越巷,登山远足;而印象最深的是,她真诚地爱她周围的每个人。她送的很多小礼物都对我很有意义,我至今保存。她让人觉得自己非常有价值,非常优秀。她不会中文,我们的英文也很蹩脚,然而她的眼睛似乎能读懂人心,她能帮助我们表达心里所想的。无怪乎她每个假期回国时,一批学生眷恋她,一直相送到机场。

  有一次我好奇地问她:“Glenna,你爱中国人,甚至超过他们的亲戚家人,为什么呢?”她笑着回答:“时间久了,你自然就会知道”。她让我明白了一句流行歌词“爱是最美的语言”。我们和她的心很贴近,在她无所谓语言,种族, 文化等“融入”问题。

  故事之二是关于一个韩国人的家庭在中国。Peter先生在中国经营生意。他是我见过的最没有商业味的生意人,他的家庭也是我见过的最美的家庭。每个周六是他的中国朋友在他家的聚会时间。 我记得雨雪之夜去他家的路上,心里想的是去一个温暖的家的感觉。有一次我忙着赶去聚会,没有来得及吃饭。我在别人家吃饭都有点拘谨,但我可以很自在地告诉他们我还没有吃晚饭,然后享受他们现做的快餐。中国人讲客气,然而我们在他家无拘无束。  我也见过他们家周末的韩国人聚会。小孩、妇女、男士们各在一处,边吃喝边谈话,从早到晚,才渐渐散去。记得一个同学说:“我真希望我以后的家是这样的”,谁不是呢?我们可以敞开心来交流,彼此又有深度的信任。我来国立大学读书时,Peter先生有一次从韩国返回的途中专程来看我。我记得当我带他和另一位朋友去一处吃饭时,他争着去买饮料时用他的韩式中文不停地说:“我服侍,我服侍”的情形。我发现服侍别人是他的生活常态。在中国生活的人情世故和经商的游戏规则可能与韩国很不相同,但他以真诚地服侍和典范的生活方式赢得周围人的信任和爱戴。“融入”对他们家不是问题。

给与服侍自然融入

  第三个故事是关于我自己,一个新移民来新加坡读书工作的故事。刚开始几年,自己也有抱怨,挑剔,冷漠一天天多起来。有一天我不禁想:我在这里的适应应该比Glenna女士和Peter先生在中国容易,可是为什么他们融入得那么好呢?那天我看到了答案:因为他们不是要去得到什么,而是要去给与服侍。我才发现“融入”的问题其实是“给”与“要”的问题。我们每天都会在“给”与“要”中选择,就像心里的电灯开关一样。当选择“要”的时候,问题就滋生了;当选择“给”的时候,所要的反而会随之而来。
  举例来说,当我们说别人不理解自己时,怨言就像小偷一样溜进来了;当我们努力去理解别人时,互相理解反而会更好。其实不仅是新移民的融入,推及朋友、家人、同事、邻里,不也是一样吗?然而人的天性是不自觉地选择要,不容易去选择给,这才是真正的问题所在。

  有一句英文说“where there is grace, there is no race”,恩惠越多的时候,融入问题越少。当人从“我”与“要”中慢慢释放出来,尽己所能地给出与服侍时,“融入”就慢慢不是问题了。

作者是新加坡理工学院数理系讲师

Friday, October 16, 2009

LUP A rebuttal to MND: Why Mah Bow Tan is wrong on upgrading

A rebuttal to MND: Why Mah Bow Tan is wrong on upgrading

October 14, 2009 by admin01

In a letter published in the Straits Times Forum on 13 October 2009,
the press secretary to National Development Minister Mr Mah Bow Tan,
Mr Lim Yuin Chien tried to explain why the LUP in Hougang was
implemented by the PAP grassroots adviser Mr Eric Low instead of its
elected MP Mr Low Thia Kiang. (read letter here)

Let us dissect and rebut the reasons given by him one by one:

1. "These programmes have to be implemented through government
channels. In the case of HDB upgrading, this channel is the advisers
to grassroots organisations, who are appointed by the Government."

LUP has to implemented through official and not party channels. The
grassroots organizations should be non-partisan, apolitical
organizations staffed by civil servants or civilians with no party
affiliations.

Mr Eric Low is neither an elected MP or a member of the government. He
was appointed as a grassroots adviser by the PAP who is rejected by
the residents of Hougang in the last general elections.

A clear demarcation must be drawn between the party and the state. The
government of Singapore is not the PAP. Only the cabinet is made up of
PAP leaders while the bureaucracy as well as grassroots organizations
are supposed to remain politically neutral.

2. Opposition MPs are not answerable to the Government, nor are they
obliged to carry out and explain the Government's policies.

Opposition MPs are answerable to the residents who voted for them to
be their representatives in Parliament. Therefore, the opposition MPs
are obliged to carry out and explain the government's policies to
their constituents.

In all the PAP wards, the MPs automatically become the grassroots
advisers. Why is there a discrimination here in non-PAP wards?

The question we should ask here is whether one needs to be a PAP
member in order to explain government's policies to the people.

Mr Low Thia Kiang has already indicated his desire to liaise with the
government to serve the people of Hougang and so HDB should implement
LUP through him instead of adding one additional layer of bureaucracy
through the PAP grassroots leader.

3. Funding for LUP is possible only because of the Government and the
Budget surpluses it has generated through prudent policies.

It is not right for the PAP government to claim credit for the budget surpluses.

While their policies do play a contributory role, it is ultimately the
hardworking and thrify people of Singapore who is responsible for our
budget surpluses.

The residents of Hougang and Potong Pasir pay taxes like the rest of
Singapore. They should be given equal access to LUP too.

It is the duty of the incumbent government of the day to ensure that
all Singaporeans have a pleasant and comfortable place to live in
regardless of their political affiliations.

4. Opposition MPs are not responsible for generating budget surpluses.
There is therefore no basis for opposition MPs to lead the LUP – a
national programme funded mainly by the Government.

If opposition MPs are not responsible for generating budget surpluses,
then in what ways are the two losing PAP candidates responsible?

Hence, there is no basis for Mr Eric Low to lead the LUP too. Again,
who is responsible for generating the budget surpluses? It is the
people of Singapore and not the government who only plays a regulatory
role in the process.

The residents of Hougang have chosen to lend their support to Mr Low
Thia Kiang not only to represent them in Parliament, but to manage
their estate for them and therefore it is only right and legitimate
for Mr Low Thia Kiang to lead the LUP.

5. The will of the people expressed in general elections is to elect a
government for the country as a whole; and not to elect separate local
governments for each constituency.

Singapore MPs serve two roles – one, to be a voice for their
constituents in Parliament and two, to manage the town councils which
is a form of local government for each constituency.

If the will of the people expressed in general elections is not to
elect a local government at all, then Town Councils can be outsourced
to private firms to run with no inkling at all to any political
parties.

Likewise in the PAP wards, the Town Councils are usually headed by the
grassroots advisers which are the MPs.

It is strange that HDB choose to liaise with PAP MPs while ignoring
the presence of opposition MPs altogether. Has HDB been instructed to
do so by the government?

Since Mr Low is in charge of Hougang Town Council, isn't it easier for
HDB work together with him directly instead of an outsider with no
business in it?

What if the opposition were to form the government one day? Will HDB
reverse the process and opt to work with government-appointed
grassroots advisers and not the PAP MPs?

This LUP fiasco is only part of a systemic flaw which has grown to
afflict our nation after decades of one-party rule: the blurring of
the boundary between the party and the state.

The PAP has used its incumbency to entrench itself in all levers of
the state from the bureaucracy, police to grassroots organizations.

As it control the purse-strings, it is in a position to curb the
growth of the opposition by hampering its work at the grassroots level
and punish Singaporeans who voted for them.

The folly of such a "practice" whereby PAP losers are entrusted to
explain and implement the government's policies on the ground is
easily shown up in the unlikely event that the PAP is reduced to a
minority government or voted out of power altogether.

We will end up in a situation where the non-PAP MPs are mere
figureheads in their constituencies while PAP losers continue to call
the shots in running the estates. Is this the way the will of the
people is being respected by the PAP?

It is time that the government defined clearly the roles of the
elected MPs vis-a-vis the appointed grassroots advisers.

Since the MPs have won the support of the majority of the
constituents, it follows naturally that they should be the grassroots
advisers and not non-elected personnel being parachuted from outside
by a political party.

It is clear by now that unless the incumbent is voted out of office,
it will be almost impossible for any alternative political parties to
serve the people who voted for them without impediment or harrassment
even in such a simple and straightforward task like explaining and
implementing the LUP in a small constituency.

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